dailyprompt-1869

Shame, abuse, bullying, questions and voices

What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

I dislike when people are asking me if I was being bullied and if I have been shitting in my pants.

One time the bullying was especially hard, it truly hurts telling anyone about the words.

This is close to some real example of verbal abuse/bullying I often got from other teens after I had shit in my pants. It’s also very much like the abusive voice-hearing I still struggle with in my 30s. And I’m aware of the sensitive nature of the topics and it’s very childish in many ways. But I needed to express this in a way as it truly was.

‘Se! Torunn driter faktisk i buksa nå, har du med deg en ekstra jeans for sikkerhets skyld, Torunn?! Hun er seriøst en kort jævla tilbakestående nerd. Du har Asperger for faen, er du klar over det? Og du går akkurat som om du nettopp har bæsja i buksa, Torunn. Hun trenger tydeligvis å bruke bleier igjen. Hvem skal skifte på deg?! Hahahaha!’

Translated by Google translate into English:

‘Look! Torunn is actually shitting her pants now, do you have an extra pair of jeans with you just in case, Torunn?! She’s seriously a short fucking retarded nerd. You have Asperger’s for fuck’s sake, do you realize that? And you’re walking a lot like you just pooped your pants, Torunn. She clearly needs to wear diapers again. Who’s going to change you?! Hahahaha!’

Thanks for listening to my true stories ❤

It used to be these three

What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

So who are you, then? (Så hvem er du, da?)

Where do you come from? (Hvor kommer du fra?)

What’s your fathers job? (Hva jobber faren din med/hva er yrket til din far?)

This first and second question made me feel like I was meant to explain to someone everything yet I didn’t know what I was supposed to answer and that they were really wondering why I went along with the other people there since I was obviously not like them.

The third question bother me because I didn’t know my father and he was (and is still) an addict; a poly drug user with difficult life.

These questions doesn’t bother me as much anymore, but it reminds me of the way it used to be in youth. Thank you for reading ❤

privacy and pride

Daily writing prompt

What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

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one of my least favourite things to be asked when I reveal my epilepsy dx is not really about the topic but the way they ask. It’s about if I wet myself often during these seizures and I don’t mean the neurologists or other doctors, I also remember someone asking this question to a girl on the radio. Btw she was honest about this and handle the question well.

the reason I feel uncomfortable with this is that it is a intrusive question by some of the people asking, they don’t know about my other symptoms of seizures that are much worse. And of course my history of being bullied for my enuresis and bedwetting tendency in childhood and teenage years is a big part, maybe even the main reason.

thank you for reading and I have to say despite not liking to be asked about this it’s still not something to be ashamed of the experiences with epilepsy. We are all just people after all.