Meeting my father

Describe something you learned in high school.

Note: this is mostly about my relationship with my father as it relates to my life in teenage years.

I didn’t have contact with my father after we left in 1995 due to his addictions and other severe troubles that affected the rest of the household very strongly. But in beginning of 9th grade he made contact with us via advocate/lawyer(?) that he wanted to meet me and we met soon after in a safe supervised setting and spoke together about different topics. But I learn the hard way he was quite unstable and broke promises to share to me important information on his experiences of his biological father and the pictures I wanted to see of him when he was my age.

And he was unfortunately quite manipulative toward me, he tried to make me dislike and distrust my mother along with trying to make me feel very guilty when he was hospitalised for significant injury at his job, I care about his well-being a lot and honestly it was quite cruel to to this manipulative thing toward a 15 year old autistic girl. I hadn’t even got a message so how would I have known this?

But he gave me quite expensive gifts and shared a little information on his biological father and his family. This I’m very grateful for and I know his childhood and youth were extremely hard for him and his family, he was severely bullied and even a victim of racist violent attacks by xenophobic youths who beat him severely with metal chains when he was just 12 years old. His family contacted the police but nothing came of it so they got away with this hate crime.

I love him no matter what and I hope he is doing okay with the poly-drug use and severe alcoholic condition. The school system failed him completely and should face serious effects. There are organisations for adults who were bullied that can help bring the school and other abusive treatments to justice for this horrible things. And I hope also that he gets help for his traumatic memories and the mental-health conditions often related to trauma and adversity.

Thank you for listening and I wish you all a good weekend ❤